I read an article last week that said the Pill is responsible for the decline of the masculine male. The theory is that the hormones ingested dull a woman's natural desire for strong men and replace them with a desire for weaker ones. Weaker in appearance, anyway.
I'm not sure if I buy that or not, but there's no denying the fact that the manly man is now looked down upon by many people. His strength was redefined as arrogance, his silence as apathy, and his stoicism as unhealthy.
The result is that where once women were weak in the knees for Steve McQueen, they're now such for Zac Effron.
Ugh.
Thankfully, there are still plenty of manly men out there. They're not as easy to spot as the flashy pretty boys and hopeless pretenders, but they're around. You just need to know how to spot one.
If you hop on over to Katdish's blog, I'll help you do just that. And when you find one, be sure to give them a punch in the arm and tell him to keep up the good fight...
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I am thankful to be married to a manly man!
Great post!
Blessings, andrea
I don't have to look far for mine - he lives in our house and leads me to Christ daily!
Not to mention Billy you are one too!
Blessings,
Jill
Here is praying my own blondie finds her a manly man one day too...someone like her dad.
Loved this!
Interestingly enough I posted about one such man myself today ...
This was great...my husband and I were just talking this weekend about how men are portrayed in most tv shows...like incompetent boobs who need the wife to take care of basically everything.
My hubs is definitely a manly man (although he has occasionally worn a pink shirt)...my dad was for sure a manly man and I know that influenced me when I was dating. My oldest daughter has a serious boyfriend now and he's a manly guy too. Dads have an enormous influence on their daughters in a thousand unspoken ways.
Mantastic!
I am so giving you a *high five* on this one Billy!
There is nothing better than seeing a hard working manly man, a little gruffly/dirty wearing workboots and flannel.
But what makes him even more desirable is these words you wrote:
He is eager to open his hand to help the helpless, and willing to close it to defend the defenseless
A manly man is by nature kind and compassionate, but those traits have their limits. He is not a doormat and will refuse to be stepped on.
and last but not least
His mistakes and faults are many, and yet he owns them. He sees the darkness in his heart and yet chooses daily to stand in the light.
I am so thankful that I married a lion....and that, my friend, is literally correct as well. My last name is Lyon.
If I had a nickel for every time I've said to my daughter "you need to find a man like your dad" She is 21 now and I am so grateful that she was able to grow up watching a real man love his wife and family, the bar has been set ....
awesome post Billy
Billy,
I applaud your efforts to stand up for the men we all want our little girls to marry! The ones that will use their hands to show love and not hurt!
The ones that will offer their shoulder to lean on and not words that demean!
You have spoken well of what it truly takes to be a manly man! I am so glad that I have married one as well!
Love and Hugs ~ Kat
Billy, pardon the following rant. That popping sound you just heard was the can of worms you opened. :-)
A manly man is comfortable with women and does not need to prove his manliness by relegating women to a lower status. Sadly, there are two types of "impostors" to manhood. The first is the soft and weak breed. The second is the type of mediocre man who, having not worked hard enough to acquire real wisdom or gifts of leadership, tries to pretend that all the women who have now outdistanced him in skill and education are irrelevant.
One of the hallmarks of real men--and real women--is work ethic. Men need to get to work and start developing their minds and their abilities so they are capable of leading. Manly men don't judge themselves by external traits, but by what they accomplish and whether their families and the world are better for their presence.
We have a crisis developing in traditional complementarian church cultures because women are now, in general, better equipped to lead by education and training than men. Studies show that females are now going further educationally and performing at higher levels all across the country than males. Young American women are now statistically very likely to have to marry men who are significantly less educated than themselves.
If anyone wants to maintain traidtional complementarianism, then manly men had better start equipping themselves to lead, and stepping up. In earlier times in history, leadership was seized by physical strength and aggressiveness. Now, it's earned by mental power, which is enhanced by education.
We can talk all we want about the beautiful difference between men and women, but it's going to sound like a hollow farce if the trends continue. Women will notice if their skills earn them leadership in the secular world, but they are ignored as soon as they step through the doors of some (not all) churches. Men need to start bringing their A game.
These are my faves:
"He knows it is better to die with courage than to live without a spine."
"A manly man knows that there is no equality of the sexes. Women are a step above men and should always be treated as such. To make a woman a man’s equal is to make her less than she is."
Thank God for Wild at Heart men willing to reach a hand to those guys who haven't had a good example and need Godly lessons in manhood.
And Thank God for my Lion, my blessing of 14 years.
Great post!
I think I'll stick with the real men who read - and write - poetry.
Great post, Billy.
I agree wholeheartedly with your post, Billy! Those are definitely the traits of a real man. I'm so glad that I married one!
Before I even head off to read the entire post, I just wanted to say I am SO glad to hear you say what you are saying in this blog. I have had several conversations with my best friend here and we have been lamenting the lack of manly men... I am waiting on God's choice for my husband, I sure know that I want a manly man and I am sure that is God's intention as that is how He created them!
WOMEN aren't crazy for Zac Efron and his ilk -- GIRLS are. There is a difference!
I posted over at Katdish's, but you know, this is home, so I'm posting here too.
Amen! Amen! Amen!
Your man-card has moved to beyond platinum lifetime membership!
This is worthy of framing, but if I could just etch it into my children's hearts instead... not just my sons' so they have a role model reminder, but also for any daughter so she knows what to look for before giving her heart over to someone she thinks is worthy of her love.
No doubt those are God-inspired words. Your kids have such a neat daddy. I bet you warm your wife's heart over time and time again.
Lord bless you!
I love me a manly man. I will take one over a pretty boy any day. Thank goodness I already found one.
Billy
Awesome post. I love all of the shared comments from everyone too.
KJ
I replied over on Katdish's blog, but I have to say again I loved the post. And another "yuck!" to the Zach Effron types!
I've got me a man. He can shoot and kill me something to eat if we need it. ha. Country boys can survive (remember the old Hank Williams Jr. song?) ...
I am married to a strong silent type and i love it. My husband will not weep at movies or hold my purse while I am in the changing room at Macy's but he gives me his coat when it is raining and his hand when I am afriad. Giev me that any day.
I haven't been here in so long Billy...sometimes a blog falls off my radar for no reason.
Thanks for using your gift so beautifully and faithfully
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